I’m (M)52 and my wife is 48. We’ve been married 27 years. Like many, our sex life was great in the beginning. We were even pretty kinky in the kid 2000’s having others in our bedroom. We were young and having fun. Our marriage is still pretty great. We laugh and get along well. Except, our bedroom is almost dead. A month or so ago my libido shot through the roof for some reason. Like I felt like I was 16 again. Crazy horny. My expected response would have been to handle things myself and not even bother to try and initiate sex. For whatever reason I told my wife. I sent flirty texts, I was honest about wanting her, couldn’t stop thinking about her, told her that her yoga pants had me bricked up. We have had sex 3 times in the last month or so. This is 6 months worth of sex normally. But, she goes into it very unenthusiastic. She enjoys her 2-4 orgasms but aside from spreading her legs and pulling my pud manually for a few, I’m the one doing all the things. Absolutely no oral from her (it’s been YEARS) no lubed handjob, no pinching of nipples, nothing. We just got back from a 5 day vacation. I told her I wanted us to try and be more affectionate than normal and intimate every day on this trip. I was asking for more than I knew I would get but I was hoping maybe we could reconnect sexually if we did it 2-3 times during this trip. She agreed and said doing it everyday might not be doable but she “would happily try.” On the last day of vacation she offered sex because we hadn’t done it the previous 4 days. This vacation ended this past Thursday. I made it clear I wanted it and was ready many times while on vacation. Friday at home I told her how good she felt having sex on vacation and I said some other complimentary but sexually bold things. I said this over text because our adult kids are home for the holidays. She flirted a little back. Nothing happened Friday. Again yesterday I texted how badly I wanted her. A little flirty back and forth. We went to bed early. She got in the shower which usually means it’s on. I showered right after her. When I got to bed she was scrolling TikTok and after a minute or two I got up and shut the mood lighting off and rolled over. A few minutes later she snapped out of it and asked if we were doing anything. I was absolutely livid. I very calmly just said not tonight. She said ok and went back downstairs. Is she clueless? Other than sex and affection we get along like two peas in a pod. She is absolutely my best friend. But I’m so sexually frustrated and unfulfilled. We’ve talked about this at nauseam. We’ve tried counseling a few times and neither of us got much out of it. Obviously I’m HL and she’s LL. I’m so tired of feeling undesirable, affectionate starved, and like my needs aren’t important. I really opened up about how I desired her and wanted her and yet here I am telling you guys. It just makes me sad.