Ive been with the same woman in a sexless relationship. Its driving me batshit crazy. My girlfriend treats sex like it's a chore , even the way she looks at me with contempt , making herself unapproachable. It's been ten years now , Im 47 , not bad looking , I get interest from other women. I feel stuck as in Ive put all my resources into this woman who barely says a kind word to me. I'm really thinking about opting out of this whole caper - zero effort on her part tells me all I need to know. She takes more than she gives , she's an emotional ingrate , as in she blocks any conversation about needs I have. Then the jealousy , aaargh - she accuses me of cheating all the time. I have some lovely female friends who make me feel happy , human and even like I'm a good person. In contrast my partner of 19 years speaks to me like I'm a child , dismissing everything I assert or mention in passing. Im really lost in this whole caper.