Me (m37) married 13 yrs. I’m a fit guy healthy, slightly muscular and on the edge of a six pack. I keep myself very clean 6’3” and I fit the intimate stereotype of black men. I’m very considerate , very empathetic, Im also the husband who cleans, I’m the cook and I have a very nice income. Wife is a sweet lady , caring person and just has no appetite for me. Btw remove potential cheating from this equation.

This weekend we have an empty home with no expected family or coming to visit. Legitimate us time! I said I want to see her reaction this weekend as I just wesr t shirt and some nice sexy underwear around the house all weekend. I would think an average woman would be like “ 👀👀👀👀” or make a suggestive comment. Welp. Not a word not a peep not even glance of interest. I wear expensive colognes and keep her pleased. But tired of initiating. I can count how many time we had sex this year and it’s less than the count of a dozen eggs. I am burnt out toys and miss the physical touch of a woman. Is this why many men cheat or seek pleasure in other things. Crazy thing is I’m a giver in bed than most. So I’m just dumbfounded.

Outside of counseling, suggesting divorce or talking more. What have you done or do to get more intimacy and are there groups of women or men to connect with who are dealing with this too. I’m open for a chat. I feel alone in this journey.