I 42HLF have been with my 40 LLM for almost 3 years. Sex at first was amazing, multiple times throughout the day but over time it has dwindled down to nothing. I believe it has been over a month ago and when I did initiate he laid there and starfished until he finished with no desire to get me to feel any pleasure. When I ask about our DB he says it’s because he doesn’t have the energy to do so but he has enough energy to play video games, hang out with friends and go play hockey a few times a week. Prior to being with him I was married to a man I was with for 18 years who also took the DB route, his issue was that we didn’t have time since our kids were young. I have also gained a bit of weight since being with my bf but he says I’m still very attractive, just not enough to want to be with me intimately. I do believe he masturbates while I’m not at the house much like my ex husband. I just want to know what is so wrong with me that I can’t get the men in my life to want me in return. I’m sorry, I’m just venting but my soul is crushed, he knew what led to my divorce and it’s like I’m having to go through it again. For my ex it was too much time but with bf it’s too much effort and I feel it stings even more. I should just yeet myself off a cliff…thanks for letting me get it out. I can’t talk to anyone about it, it’s just too painful.