Well, for the past year I had totally accepted a deadbedroom. No intimacy. No sex. I don't even try to kiss her anymore. She has seemed fine with that. She wants emotional intimacy, but there are problems there because we fight when we start talking. Tried therapy, didn't work. Anyway, if you are here, you know the drill.

Anyway, my wife was supposed to be working on a deadline this morning. She just called. Said she took a break and got her haircut. She said the stylist said she looks really good and needed to call her man and have him take her to dinner. So she called me. This after we had a pretty intense disagreement this morning. I told her we should. Then she back peddled, said I already had a dinner planned to cook tonight.

Do I try to charm her and take her to dinner? Or do I say hell no? I'm not letting her toy with me? For the first time in a year, part of my wants to try. Perhaps I should text her and tell her I'd love to take her to dinner on one condition....i get to mess up her hair tonight when we get home after the kids are in bed.

Should I test the waters after so long, or no?