Both mid fifties. No sex for over 10 years. Our sex life was never good. She never orgasmed as far as I know, but never wanted to show me how to pleasure her. Love to go down on her but she doesn’t like it. She was happy to have sex as much as possible for pregnancies, but not at other times. I admit I’ve done a poor job of taking her out and making her feel special. But affection doesn’t really seem to be something she thinks of. There’s been things she’s done that make me feel like I’m in a parent competition rather than with a life partner. Would be happy with hand jobs, but never offered. Usually made to feel like a bit of a perv. Have let myself go a bit and am extremely hairy all over, so maybe it’s a complete turn-off. I used to body shave and plan to do so again, but makes me very prickly to touch. I resort to porn every four months or so. I’m making more of an effort now to be interested in her. Seems to be helping a bit. Think I’m going to try some dates and maybe get a vibrator to see if she’ll try it. And will focus on getting in shape. I sleep on the couch most of the time due to snoring. Not really sure why I’m posting. It’s been a long, lonely, confusing road. Going to see if I can turn it around, but suspect I’ll never get as much intimacy as I want. It’s not been the love story I hoped for!