Early in the day, everything is going positively. Smiles kisses, flirting from her etc but it's just before work. she says "tonight we could 'maybe get in the hot tub and ya know..."

Everything is good all day, nice chat at lunchtime, flirt or joking texts throughout the day. Phone call on the way home, "pshew... I'm so tired and my stomach hurts". Gets home, she says "what are YOU making for dinner? I'm not very hungry, I ate late"

uh, you ate when I did, it's called lunchtime. We talked on the phone.

"I have gas" goes to the bathroom. Comes back. Yawn. Big fake Yawn again. And again.

"Ug my feet hurt."

Me: so... uh... why don't you to take a shower while i make dinner?"

Her: why can't I just relax i just got home from work!" Its been 2 1/2 hours.

Dinner served she eats half of her plate. "Ug i over ate."

Let's go clean up the house or for a walk. "No i don't want to do any of that." Yawn again. Mind you I've been up 2 hours longer, you kids to school. Went to work. Picked kids up, made dinner served it to her sitting on the bed finger fucking her phone. Took garbage out, managed kids to take care of their chores, clean up, showers, etc etc etc.

Me: well go get a shower so we can spend some time together. Thought you wanted to get in the hot tub.

Her: I'm too tired. I have gas. My feet hurt. The kids stressed me out. I over ate. I have to do my laundry. The dogs didn't get fed. There's grass outside on the yard. The sky is blue during the day but not at night. Blah blah blah blah bullshit.

Me: whatever... fine. I get it, you don't want to fuck. That's all you've got to say. Not make 96 excuses why you CAN'T have sex with me tonight. Just own up to it, you JUST don't WANT TO. Be honest!

HER: it's not like I don't want to! I do want to.

When was the list time you took a shower? I know it's been 2 or 3 days.

All of this is what I've started to call speed bumps. And now I know her fake game, I spot them early. The more you try to adjust and fix things the more they squirm and slither to get out of the situation. If you get good enough at fixing all the little things like unlocking a combination lock, she'll just not shower so she's gross. She knows i love giving oral, but not on somebody with terrible hygiene. Yuck.

Spot it early, call it out. Don't hold back. Make her accountable for the little game she plays and force her to be honest. And then take your time and attention away to something else. She doesn't want you anymore. I took my attention to SOMEONE else eventually and she had the nerve to be butt hurt about it. I was wrong and shouldn't have done it and i signaled it was going to happen first. She laughed at me in contempt, said, like somebody else wants to fuck you? Challenge accepted mother fucker.

In the end It woke her up. She got things going a bit but now I'm seeing familiar patterns again. I won't be as nice this time around. If I have to go get my needs met on my own again, I won't be coming back home.