My LL wife 46 no longer has power over me m46

Wife has used sex to control me, when she announced that was that 3.5 years ago I was distraught. Over the past years I'm less and less bothered, the control she has over me has dwindled, she still hides/changes in the bathroom won't show even her body and I'm less and less interested.

Sex, and Intemacy holds a relationship together. The reason for the halt was she wasn't attracted to me, I now feel the same I'm not as attracted to her, she is still beautiful but as a package I don't like it. I'm detaching, doing more of the things I want to do. She continues to tell me what to do, but I do less and less and what she demands and she knows she needs to have a conversation about things more.

She used sex to control me, and has turned off the thing she used to control and manipulate me

The real conversation hasn't happened yet, it will be one about the future, covering an open marriage, separation or reconciliation, how we get what we both want.