I've been mostly lurking here and seeing there are so many in similar situations. But this evening frustrated me to the point I needed to post.

My wife has been on call this weekend, she had a long day. I hadn't seen her all day. We were standing in the kitchen and she had finished popping some popcorn. I asked her if I could give her a hug, he response was "I'd rather go to bed". I didn't have any other motives here, it was the first time I'd seen her all day.

So she never got a hug. She got called back into work and didn't even come to say bye.

I feel like I am married to a roommate I have a couple kids with. So far we had sex once in May this year. I don't ask very often because it's met with a straight up rejection. She just says that she has no interest, she doesn't want to cuddle and does not instigate any contact with me.

I've been married 14 years and it's been this way since we stopped drinking. I think she needs to be drunk to lose her inhibitions or something. I don't get it.

I'm just tired of being married to a roommate and need something else in my life.