i (23F) have been with my partner (28M) for 4 years. we had sex regularly for the first year or two. several times a week. anywhere from 2-5. then i got majorly depressed and anxious all the time. i started rejecting him so much. daily even. we had sex once every 3-4 months for nearly two years. i started feeling better a couple months ago, my libido has increased again. and i would love to have sex every other day. but now he doesn’t initiate. and if i initiate, it’s “im in the middle of something.” or “let me go do this first.” or whatever he can do to leave the room and then he comes back like i never attempted to initiate sex. he’s never usually doing something when i ask, he just pretends to become busy to avoid sex. we recently had been having sex once a week for maybe a month. and now he hasn’t touched me in over a month. i haven’t initiated to see if i truly did break him. he hasn’t initiated either.

i feel so bad. i rejected him so much that he doesn’t even try anymore. i compliment him all the time, i tell him how much i love him. we have no sexual intimacy all the damn time. idk how to fix what i did. i don’t want time to continue to pass without having sex, i don’t want it to get to 3 months again, i don’t want it to go even longer than that. i’m afraid that i truly messed it up and idk where to go from here.