Hey everyone,

I don’t even know where to start right now. I’m overwhelmed with this deep frustration, and honestly, I’m feeling pretty damn lost. Being in a dead bedroom? It’s brutal. It’s like living on an emotional rollercoaster that just keeps going, and no matter how hard you try, you can’t get off.

I can’t wrap my head around why she doesn’t desire me the way I desire her. And it’s not just about sex—it’s about feeling wanted, feeling connected, like we actually matter to each other in that way. Without that connection, I feel like I’m stuck in this lonely, isolating space, trapped inside my own head.

And the self-doubt? It’s eating me alive. I’m constantly questioning myself, wondering if there’s something fundamentally wrong with me. I try. I really do. I do everything I can to make her see me, to make her want me. But it’s like every effort I make slams into a brick wall. And with every failed attempt, that anxiety just grows. The fear that maybe this is it. Maybe this is all there’s ever going to be.

I get it—sex isn’t the only thing that matters in a relationship. But the need for intimacy, both physical and emotional, is as important as anything else. And when your partner doesn’t meet you there, it hurts in ways I can’t even fully describe.

And yeah, I’ll admit it. To cope, I turn to porn. But it’s this vicious cycle—guilt, shame, I back off. Then the pressure builds again. And I start to secretly hope, every night, that tonight will be the night. It never is.

It’s this loop. This endless loop that leaves me feeling hollow.

I’ve tried talking to her—calmly, rationally, hoping that maybe we could figure something out. All she says is that we have different libidos. Well, great. Then let’s work on it! I even went to see my doctor, hoping maybe there was a way to dial down my own libido. But the options... let’s just say I don’t want to go down that road.

So here I am—stuck. More frustrated than ever. And honestly, I just feel helpless.

I read posts on this sub, and it helps to know I’m not alone.