My husband masturbates multiple times a week, and he has sex with me maybe once a month after me constantly trying to initiate. That means that he’s choosing porn over me like 90% of the time.

I really never thought about it until reading other people’s posts on here, but maybe porn is the problem. I watch it, too, as often as I have a minute alone, but I still have a high sex drive. He turns me down constantly at night, but in the morning I can tell he masturbated (wet wipes moved to the couch). I once stumbled upon his saved porn and found nothing interesting or surprising so I thought there was nothing wrong it. The cold hard truth is that he would rather watch porn so much more often than have sex with me that I’m finding support and comradery in the dead bedroom subreddit. And that’s really fucking hurtful.