Just want to start out by telling everyone thanks for the posting. I felt like I was truly the only one out there in a dead bedroom situation and just knowing I’m not alone might be a start in the right direction.

I’ve been married to my wife for 16 years. She stopped all intimacy with me last year out of no where. She was becoming extremely boring about a year prior to that. Boring as in she would just lay there. No interaction with me. To me amazing sex is supposed to be 2 people interacting with each other, and doing anything they can to please one another. Now, the most I get is a hug and kiss. This is absolutely killing me mentally. I have low self confidence now because of the rejections. Well with all of the hurt that comes with this, my job isn’t exactly always a happy place. I’m a fireman and when I go to work I’m gone for multiple days at a time. I work in a really busy area in So Cal and have seen things and been in situations that will fuck with your head for longer than you want. After bad shifts at work I would look forward to coming home to the woman that I loved. I would feel loved and obviously the sex was important. This past year with no sex or affection from the woman that I love, I don’t have that safe space to get my head right anymore. Now I feel like I’m rambling on…

All that being said, I need help. I will not get a divorce. I’m close to looking for a woman that is in the same situation so we can help get each others sexual frustrations out. I am a good looking man and take care of myself physically. I get hit on all the time but it never helps my confidence at all. This is something I never wanted to do and I can’t believe I am even at this point but I’m 42 years old. I need someone that can relate maybe. Time is going way too fast and this just all fucking sucks.