Sex shouldn't matter this much in the grand scheme of things, it's just a small piece of a well rounded life and marriage. Yet here I am several months deep in the latest drought and I can't help but see the damage its starting to do not only to my own self esteem, but also other areas of my marriage.

We have had droughts before but this one feels different and I can see the difference in our relationship this time.

• All the other forms of intimacy are starting to fade away.
• We are getting out of sync, what was once unspoken synergy is now awkward tripping over one another both physically and emotionally.
• We are both getting so much more frustrated with each other. Like our sex life was the oil that lubricated the engine that was our relationship, now that that has gone everything is starting to grind and grate and do damage.

I don't want this to destroy what is a good marriage and a good life outside of the bedroom, but it also feels like the cancer is starting to spread and I just don't know how to stop it. I'm not even sure if I can.

How is something so small doing so much damage....?