For those that haven’t read my previous post I(m36) have been in a DB with my wife(f39) for three years. We have had many talks and they have seemed to go no where. We took a long vacation just the two of us for over a week and the third day we had a great conversation after things just hit a wall. She admitted that she had no real desire for sex and that she doesn’t even play with herself. She said she was still attracted to me just didn’t have any want for sex. This lead to a tough conversation around me needing that to change and she agreed to have her meds looked at as when that changed a few years ago it definitely hit her drive. We then actually had sex for the first time in the three years later that day. It was great. She genuinely seemed to enjoy it and was asking for things and very in it. Certainly didn’t feel like pitty sex.

Two days later she brought up sex again while we were out and then when we got back to our room the same routine of reasons not in the mood started and the saying let’s try in the morning or tomorrow and it never happened again.

After the over 10 tens days of just us I honestly feel worse than if we had just not had sex. I finally felt like I had a huge piece of my wife and relationship back and after the end of vacation and now being home feel like it’s right back to what it was and there won’t be any progress. I doubt she will make any effort to address it and I feel less fulfilled after it all than I did before.

Idk if it’s fair to feel this way or not so now I also feel guilty. Mainly wanted to vent and appreciate any comments. You all were great last time and honestly this group makes me feel less alone than ever before.