When I met my partner 12 years ago at 18 I was 140lbs , now I’m almost 30 and I’m 180 lbs at 5ft 4. I’m fairly active , I walk to work and work with children dancing and singing all day , picking up babies etc

I found out this year that I have lipedema in my legs and the only way to remove the fat is by surgery 😭

My bf had never made a comment on my weight and actively says he likes it when I eat and will try and get me to eat junk food , beer etc

However we very rarely have sex since moving in with each and I don’t know if it’s down to my weight gain

He used to always be up for it and always woke up hard , but now there is nothing. We will always cuddle and spend time with a h other but never intimately

I work out in the gym 3-4 time per week doing the c25k and resistance training, however my weight stays the same and my fat % stays around 40% as well. I eat a keto diet with my carbs staying under 10grams per day

I know my body doesn’t look the best and I’m convinced that’s the reason why he doesn’t want to sleep with me anymore even though he constantly says I’m beautiful etc

Do you think I should save up to get lipedema surgery to improve our sex life or could there be another issue ?

I’m hoping to have a baby in the next two years but the lack of sex is worrying me a lot. I’m also worried that he secretly doesn’t want children and doesn’t want to risk having sex just in case… this year we have had sex 5 time in 2024 , I don’t feel like that is normal and I don’t know what to do to make it better