"Communication is key to a successful relationship" they say. Well, I (28F HL) have tried to tell my husband (39M LL) in a MILLION different ways that I love him and desire him but he doesn't care. Nothing changes. We've become roommates.

Like many of the people in this sub, we had an incredible sex life for about the first year we met. We've been married for 6 years and our sex life has been slowly fading. It's true that there were issues with moving from one country to another, buying a house and work-related issues along the years and those were his exuses along the years.

Now all these issues have been resolved but he still doesn't try to initiate anything sexual with me which I can live with but him turning me down every single time I try to initiate is fucking heartbreaking. I try to turn our kisses from pecks to long passionate kisses but he's not interested, I try to touch him when I know that he's relaxed but he's not interested, I try to go down on my knees to blow him but again no, I try to caress him when we're in bed but again I get turned down. He either ignores my desires by pretending to not understand that I am trying to have sex with him or gives me some lousy excuse like "I'm tired" or "I didn't shower yet". The best excuse, which he uses all the time now is that "he feels awkward since we haven't been sexual for a while but he'll try to work on it".

I got really happy when I heard that he'll try to work on it but he does absolutely NOTHING about it. I reached the point where I just don't give a shit anymore about having sex with him. I wish if I could have sex with anyone else because he turned me down so many times that I am no longer aroused by him.

The best part about all this is that we just had a kid 6 months ago and I am starting to regret having him with my husband. Don't get me wrong, I love my baby but I just wish if I had him with a different partner. I am starting to question if I married the right person... I do not want to get a divorce for the sake of our baby.

I just needed to vent...