So, I don’t really know where to start. My wife and I have been together for 13 years. Married 8. And generally speaking… things are great. We have 2 wonderful kids. There’s a tiny bit of financial stress but look at the economy. She has always struggled with weight and body image issues but I still think she’s wonderful and she does try. Before the kids came into the picture that never slowed us down in the bedroom. I was very very happy with our sex life. And then our first came into the world. Now Obviously, things have to heal, hormones have to level out. I was fully prepared to give it a year to make sure she was fully prepared. And then a year came and went and still no interest. Now 5 years have come and gone with no interest. Obviously we have had some sex. Our second child came into the picture. It’s kind of become understood at this point, she isn’t interested in sex but if I need it we can do it. That’s not my thing I need some fire, I need to feel desired as a sexual being. I don’t really understand what has happened or why. She has always been somewhat adverse to physical contact (not a big cuddler) and I believe her hormones are probably very out of whack. I love my wife and I love our kids and I am happy with the life have built together and that’s why I do not cheat or anything like that. But I really miss sex. It used to be so good, even waking up in the middle of the night realizing “oh, we are currently having sex.” Is there hope?