I 'M41' and my GF 'F 31' have been dating for over two years now. There are some big stressers going on for her, which I totally understand. However, I was in part pulled in and attracted to the way we both seemed to enjoy sex with each other. We talked about our likes, our fetishes, and our dislikes, and she encouraged me to open up to her about these things and did so much I'm the beginning, so I'm thinking we have similar likes, and at least are compatible sexually. Now, I'm being told that it is natural for sexual interest to go down and that I shouldn't expect what I was receiving. I'm being told that I'm living in a fantasy and most relationships don't put importance on maintaining a certain level of sexual activity.

Sex is not the number one things I find is important in a relationship, but I do feel it is up there. Physical touch and intimacy is a big part of my love language, and when I don't receive anything that it messes with me. I'm trying to be understanding with the things she is going through, including some money concerns, and be there for her. But, our talks end up leaving me feeling like I'm just some sexual deviant that only cares about one thing and not being validated at all on own concerns. Am I crazy??? I feel like it is important to most relationships, and the ones that don't have that are the unhappy ones. Having said all this she is a fantastic person that I love so very much, but I'm afraid this is going to get in the way, even when she does not have the extra stressers. Am I misguided. I'm being accused of wanting her to be a pornstar, when I just want a healthy and fun sex life. What importance do y'all place in sex in a relationship???

TL:DR I'm being told I place too much importance on sex. What impressive do y'all place in sex in a relationship??