Hi everyone. Been lurking for a while. Tonight I made the decision to get divorced from my wife of 17 years. We have two young children that mean the world to us both. .

She’s been sleeping in a separate room for a few weeks now, and she doesn’t show much interest in making any kind of effort to improve things. At 47 I still have enough life in me to, God willing, have a normal sex life for once.

Trigger that did it - I called my old grad school friend who got divorced 5 years ago and he laid some truth on me. He said, roughly, that to save the marriage at this late point would require two people fighting like hell to make it work. I see none of that from my soon to be ex-wife and don’t even think I have any fight left in me.

So there you go. This is the sound a marriage makes when it dies.

Wish me luck.