I (35M) used porn/masturbation as an outlet for dead bedroom, then as an outlet for all other stress in my life. That turned into erectile dysfunction, which is like being deaf in a library, but I recognized it was unhealthy and decided to quit both porn and masturbation cold turkey.

Not sure how sustainable this is, but it’s been 24 days since I’ve tickled the pickle. The good news is my sensitivity came roaring back, and the bad news is my sensitivity came roaring back. I was at the arcades with my son, and there is this Deal or No Deal game with pretty girls in blue dresses on the screen. I’ve never thought such dirty thoughts about Deal or No Deal, nor thought it was even possible. I don’t feel anything with a hole is safe from me: humans, bagels, electrical sockets… I can relate to a dog that humps furniture. I so badly want to be intimate with my wife, or a sex doll, or a park bench—I don’t care I just need relief.

If your low libido partner is a porn user, try to convince them to stop porn/masturbation for 30 days. They may look at you like I look at Deal or No Deal, and that may be just the spark your bedroom needs.