So this is my story, feel like sharing.47 year old New Zealander but soent 20.plus years living and working all around the world, Been with my wife 46, for over 16 years, married for 10, 7 year old son, my father left my mother before I was born and I will never leave my wife as a result as I do not want my son to experience what I did so not looking for "you should leave" advice... Anyway, we arent each others type physically, attracted as soul mates, although we are both attrative fit people, and we were both HL with lots of sex in the intial years.. then some sex clubs togther and then even open relationship which was really exciting for a while.. we then couldnt conceice and ended up having our son via IVF, the years of trying to having a baby and failing killed sex between us...it became a chore and in the end a pointless chore... We now have seperate bedrooms and have had sex twice in 7 years, my wife now tells me she isnt interested in sex at all and is happy for to "get it" else where, so I have been doing some of the dating apps (Im really well endowed so it has been quite good for the ego at times but not actually met anyone, it is really hard as NZ is not a big place population wise) but it is not the same as a nice cuddle and gentle love making with the woman you married. Everything else in our relationship is pretty good.. I guess im resigned to a dead bedroom for the rest of my life and I dont know how I feel about that.. I dont want to talk to a friend as I dont want anyone to know . i guess that is why I am sharing here.. anyone else understand the position I am in?