I’ve (61 HLM) been following this sub for a while now and I’ve been surprised by a few things:

1.      The number of women on here that are getting the short end of the stick (no pun intended).  I expected it to be mostly men complaining about their wives losing interest.

2.      The age of the folks posting on here.  There are a lot of couples in their 30’s and even 20’s that seem to be in this boat.

3.      I haven’t seen any posts talking about physical issues that the LL spouse is dealing with.  For example, my wife (57 LLF) has issues with pain, dryness and UTIs.

We never had a hot BR really but when we were younger it wasn’t that bad, even when we had kids.  Things went down hill fast though after she went through menopause; the last 5 years or so have been extremely dead.  We went through a bit of a reckoning last year when she discovered me looking at porn.  What a shocker if you ask me. Anyway, she made an attempt to be more receptive to my advances. Unfortunately she started having regular UTIs. So she started using Uqora, which seemed to help with that, but she had been increasingly paranoid about her physical issues: dryness, pain, etc.  Believe me I’m not an asshole; I get that she is having issues and I feel bad for her.  But her attitude seems to be “oh well, this is how it is”.  She doesn’t seem interested in trying to remedy any of it.  And it has led to our new “rules of engagement”: no foreplay, no touching, she won’t even let me play with her boobs, which has always been something we both enjoyed.  She doesn’t come right out and say it but basically on the rare occasions that anything happens it’s basically “Ok, lube it up, stick it in and get it over with”.  I never thought it would happen but it has finally broken me; someone who has always had a super high libido now finds themselves not even interested in trying to start anything.  

I guess I’m just venting here.  It’s too late for me to do anything drastic (married for 37 years).  Other than the DB we have a pretty nice life, wonderful kids and now grandkids.  Maybe I need to get a Fleshlight?  At the very least it might be time to renew some of my subscriptions to the “end of the internet”. Maybe someone should start a hookup site for DB victims...