Hello, newbie here! I wonder if anyone has any advice on how to live with not being desired or not being found attractive by your partner.

For context, our DB is not a case of mismatched libido. If anything I (f34) am the lower libido partner and my husband (m37) the higher. I would say I’m of average attractiveness with a good figure, but we’ve been together 15 years now and he no longer sees me sexually or finds me attractive. He stills wants sex, just not with me (he’s poly and dates other people from time to time). He is affectionate towards me and we have a fairly good relationship otherwise.

I’m not looking for relationship advice. I’m just hoping for some tips on how I can feel better in myself - basically anything that any of you have found helpful in coping with a partner’s lack of sexual feeling towards you and not letting it get you down.