TL;DR: The process to resurrect a db is painstakingly slow.

My wife and I started sex therapy in May 2024. I knew it would be a slow process, but didn't realize it's a snail's pace. I know that menopause hit my wife hard (hysterectomy, hormones out of balance, painful intercourse.).

Let me explain the most fun we've had sexually since we started. It's easy. We lay naked in bed, watch a tv show or movie, and then that's it. Skin to skin contact. I don't mind it, it's nice and intimate, but at this pace, I think my best chance at having a sexual experience is in 40 years when they wheel me into the nursing home and I can look for single ladies.

I've learned why my wife feels the way she does, but all that does is help me increase my compassion. It's not helping me with the frustration. I've had to find different outlets (ie redditors) to help with that. And know what? It's fun. It's something I'd love to introduce into our bedroom...when the time is right. For now, it's a weekly session of therapy, followed by a weekly naked movie night. In between, it's me, my palm, and some other redditors to help out. I'm getting frustrated with the speed of the process. I know I can't force her to accelerate this, just as much as she can't force me to slow down.

I'm completely satisfied WITHOUT p-i-v intercourse because it's painful for her. I don't need that. I"d be happy with mutual masturbation, oral (giving and receiving), and even some fun games. I've expressed that in our sessions. To date, I can't remember the last time she even touched my genitals.

Our next session is tomorrow, Wednesday, and I'm building up the courage to explain my feelings to our therapist. Feels like we're in a sea, in a ship, without a rudder.