My H is LL and has ED.

I’ve exhausted myself trying to seduce him with little success. He outright turns me down, can’t get/stay hard, or we just have vanilla sex that leaves me…unfulfilled.

I want to feel desired. Ravished. Consumed.

He’s a great father. Loyal. Kind.

But our physical intimacy is, well…entirely unsatisfying.

We have a family. A home. A partnership. I can’t imagine leaving that.

But to know this is my life, forever…that shit depresses me.

Would you leave? Advocate for ethical non-monogamy? Just stay and keep masterbating alone to porn?

Just curious how others process this feeling when your partner is otherwise stable and reliable.