I (24F) have spent the last almost 4 years with my LL husband (27M) and when we do have sex I barely ever finish. It goes so fast, it’s hard to get into, it’s robotic since it’s the same thing every time (careful bj or he’ll cum, then he rubs my parts, and I either finish or I don’t, then PIV and over) the actual sex part lasts 5ish minutes everytime. My husband says it’s because I feel good but it just makes me feel like I’m not worth having sex with. This has been a problem with everyone I’ve ever slept with, 10 minutes tops if I’m very very lucky. It always feels like their rushing to get it over with.

I have started to hate it and I’ve all but stopped trying to have sex with my husband. He says it feels like I’m giving up on us but I don’t like it with him anymore. I think he’s a great guy but I’ve only had sex maybe 100 times since I was 20 and it’s been good maybe 10 times? Not all of those times we’re with him either per se. Worst part is we’ve had really good sex before it’s just so few and far between. He says I take too long (20 minutes) and that he’s never had that issue with anyone else. It just all feels so terrible like I’m being starved out for being too difficult.

It’s hard not to get annoyed with him when he’s like having a clingy roommate. He won’t touch me but wants to watch movies and hang out and go out with. And now we have a baby and I get so in awe seeing him be a great father but I’m soo dissociated and disconnected from everything I can’t even fully enjoy it. Hopefully counseling starts working because I may seriously have to have a divorce talk with him. I’ve mentioned divorce a couple of times but he has taken the fact that I’ve said “you’ll be the only person I ever marry” as a “you and me will be married forever regardless of the circumstances” and I can’t continue to want him and get nothing.