I’ve been stuck in a dead/dying bedroom for a few years now. I’ve tried talking about it, but I either come out of the argument feeling like a pervert or receiving pity sex with a promise of more effort that never eventuates. It’s not just sex, it’s all forms of affection that she is resistant too. About 6 months ago I gave up trying, because the constant rejection made me feel like a piece of shit and my mental health was spiraling. Since I’m no longer being rejected my mood has improved,it’s still a fucked situation but its the only option I had (I can’t leave because of my kids and the complex financial situation we have, divorce would ruin me and severely affect my business partners)

Anyway we have a weekend away coming up and when this occurs we usually have sex, however I feel she does this more out of duty than desire. I don’t want it, but I also don’t want to deal with the fallout.

I know im delaying the inevitable but I can’t see how our next discussion goes well for me. Any sex after the talk will be tainted with pity or duty and that will only make both of us resent each other. Or she might say she doesn’t love me anymore and that she wants out. I think I’m begging to fall out of love with her, and I would love to fix it but I don’t know how.

As you may of noticed from the above rambling, I’m not great with my words, while she is a lawyer who literally argues for a living so any discussion/argument we have I lose and lose quickly.