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We're not dead, but not thriving. I kept feeling like something was off. He went out of town, I was on the desktop, and found that he looks at porn. I just feel like we would have so much more sex if it weren't a factor. I could have sex every day. I am kinkier than him. I want to try new things. I am actually attractive, and the women he looks at do have a similar body type to me. I get hit on a lot, in front of him even. I am willing to do the work in bed, I love sucking cock, and again, I am willing to try new things.
How do I get him more interested in me? I want him so bad. I am willing to do anything.
You could never be āthose girlsā? Are you saying you WOULD or WOULDNT want those kinks? Depending on the kind of acts and scenes he was looking at the answer of his kinks are right there. He already jacking off to it.
I think, honestly, youāre overcomplicating itā¦ thereās a very direct line of questioning that would be easy to uncover to figure out his kinks, besides just what he searches for on porn.
Also you never answered my question; do you watch porn as well?
As someone previously addicted to porn I can tell you itāll be pervasive AF to his sex drive and desire to be with you. First, it (him watching / āusingā) needs to stop.
Have you guys had a discussion around it? Are you okay with it in general? Do you yourself watch porn? I think women that watch is very different than men. Verrrry different.
Second, thereās not a guy alive who doesnāt like a blowie. That, and maybe some erotic / dirty talk. That oughtta do it. Tell him you wanna suck him, and swallow him as you whisper that in his ear and run your lips around him, and if he rejects you, just force your mouth on his dick- I donāt see him pushing you away lol
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Lastly, you say you donāt know to have the convo with him, but IMO, itās pretty simple. āI want to know what turns you on - choose from the listā
Or something like that. DIRECT. Donāt beat around the bush.
Again I donāt see a world where you donāt take charge and tell him you want to experiment with him, OR, donāt even say anything. Wake him up to a blowjob. Or tell him to go to bed naked and maybe heāll wake up with a wet dream. Tell him youāve always wanted to try thatā¦
It doesnāt have to be positioned like a āserious conversationā - but at night, in passing, as a subtle requestā¦
The feeling CAN be mutual, sounds like you need to take charge.
And good GOD, I wish I had a wife like you hahaha