We are married for 13 years. We used to have lot of common interests and we used to spend time watching stuffs in TV together. Our relationship had its challenges for the past seven years since our kid was born. We are post most of the issues and we are in a stable relationship now.

For last one plus years , I been noticing her watching more and more Korean dramas mostly romantic in nature. Her schedule is like work, chores, child care and her Korean dramas. She doesn’t have time to spend with me. When I speak to her when she is not working or with the kid(I do look after kid more than 50% of time), she is either watching her series in phone or in TV. I don’t feel she gives enough attention to me talking most of the time. When asked about it, she says she needs to relax. I am more vulnerable particularly after my job loss two months ago. I do watch my shows in Netflix, but when my kid or wife needs my attention, I either pause my show or switch it off completely.

She used to be an avid reader. We are from India BTW. she is pretty good in English and has a beautiful voice and sings splendidly.

She used to read lot of classics like Jane Eyre, Adam brown, etc. and contemporary English novels like Game of Thrones, etc. and lot of theological books. I don’t see her reading anymore. I remember she can complete a volume of book like game of thrones in a weekend.

IMO Korean series are junk. It’s all about drama , romance and sexual tension. It portrays a dream like romantic fantasy world. I see many young girls hooked to these series. Nothing against Korean entertainment. I loved movies like Parasite and series like squid games. I wish here past time be used to fulfill her intellectual curiosity, to learn and grow.

I think She kind of uses these drama shows to escape from reality and to feel like being in a fantasy.

I watch series and dramas too. But my preferences are in many genre.

In past I have found out she was reading erotic romance in an app in her phone. (Not the usual apps like kindle). Once she knew I know she was reading such literature, she deleted those apps from her phone. I never confronted her about her interests in erotic novels. I see it like porn. I was no better either. I had habit of watching porn. She found out. I apologized and felt guilty about it. At least I recognize porn as a problem and took steps to move away from it. I wanted to open up about my sexual needs. She is mostly tired for sex. Last real intercourse was like more than a year ago. All we do is please each other my hand once in a two months. I get my itch scratched with my hand I go down on her most of time. She never does that to me. I respect her boundaries. It is my desire to please her and make her reach peak multiple times when ever we do. We mostly sleep in different rooms. It’s a torture to be turned on by a person next to you and can’t do anything about it. I wanted to talk to her about her obsession with K drama today. But she doesn’t like confrontational conversation. I was scared to talk to her about it.

I am worried about her mental wellbeing (garbage in garbage out) and the strain on our relationship.