My wife has been away for a couple of days, spending time with her parents—kind of strange. I don't think she is cheating, but whatever. My youngest son is also away overnight on a school trip. Those two things are connected because she always puts our 10-year-old son to bed and probably stays with him for 2 to 3 nights a week until the morning! He is away this week, which means she now has to sleep in our bed, but she left. Hmmmmm!

So, the Dead Bedroom part. We have had sex twice in 2024, once on our anniversary in May and about a week after Valentine's Day, when my advances caused a fight! This is on top of the 3-5 times we had sex in 2023. I believe I wore out my shoulder from masturbating so much.

I don't want to live like this anymore. We have had many conversations about sex, intimacy, affection and connection over the years. My feelings about the subjects are well known, and I know what she expects from me.

We are in a classic chicken-and-egg scenario. She's not getting an emotional connection, so there is no physical connection and vice versa. I don't know how to reverse this! UGH!

Hopefully, I'm brave enough to have a conversation about our sexless marriage this weekend. We are going to go back and forth about sexual desires and expectations, and at the end of the day, I don't believe anything will change.

I don't want to hurt my family and mostly kids, but I'm unhappy! She constantly asks if I'm okay, and I want to snap back at her and say, "NO! I haven't been laid in months, I'm fucking pissed". But that's not helpful. I don't want sex to be a chore.

I am fucking stuck!!!