Firstly before I start with the update, below is a link to my previous post for anyone who missed it and wants the backstory… https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/s/Lr3VXPZX6s

Secondly I want to wholeheartedly thank every single one of the you who read/commented for your kindness, concern, support, sympathy, empathy and general interest in my story.

Now onto the ‘what happened next’. To put it simply an extended text message conversation occurred (no actual in-person conversations here!) which involved numerous claims and rebuttals regarding events surrounding our sex life. To save boring everyone to death I will list the highlights in bullet point form… - my wife claimed she had initiated sex on the last 2 occasions. This I know to be false as I began recording our sexual activity a while back as evidence to the lack thereof. Also as a sub point her idea of her initiating is usually asking me to perform sexual acts on her, and not her doing them to me. - my wife claimed she isn’t feeling the intimacy with me and I’m not romantic enough. This I also dispute as I try to initiate cuddles most days, I kiss her whenever leaving her (to go somewhere) plus initiate the ‘good night’ kiss. I also cuddle her in bed on ‘lie-in’ mornings. I’ll accept I could be a little more romantic, and will try to work on this. - my wife claimed we ‘aren’t compatible’ (this hurt 😞), we don’t talk much or enjoy each others company. I accepted we don’t have long open conversations and not a lot of shared interests but I very much enjoy the time I do spend with her and hate the fact she thinks we aren’t compatible! (Surely she shouldn’t have married me if that was the case!) - finally and possibly the most damning my wife claimed that my mood with/way I talk to our kids massively turns her off me. Now I’ll be the first to admit I have a short fuse when it comes to my kids misbehaving/not doing as they are told. But I vehemently deny any suggestion I’m a bad father. I do get angry and shout but I always apologise to the kids after, and leave thing between us on good terms.

Anyway, that was pretty much the end of the conversation. Nothing has changed between us, I’m still stuck in this black hole of misery with no end in sight. The whole conversation wasn’t even acknowledged at all the next day and my wife just continued on as normal as if nothing had changed. So we continue…

TLDR Had text message conversation with my wife regarding our lack of sex life. We argued over various points. Nothing was resolved or changed, leaving us exactly where we were before.

Edit : For typos and formatting.