Ok so I’m super nervous about this. I’ve been lurking in the this sub for a while now and finally built up enough courage to post. Before I get started let me just say that the people here seem so freaking cool and laid back and very supportive. I love how the “no judgment” feel is definitely here. Much love to everyone here and big props to the Mods for establishing such a great space for people like all of us.

Now, my name is Ace. I’m a 41 year old African American male from the east coast. I’ve been with my wife for 20 years ( Married 8). Needless to say, our sex life is very very bad. We are going on 2 years with no sex. Now let me just say, there are some personal reasons as to why most of these two years have been sexless on her part (reasons that I’d rather not say here) but all in all it has been very rough. I am a very very sexual individual and I love the touch and affection of a woman. Everything about a woman turns me on. Her feminine ways, her smell, touch, feel, kiss, moan, innocence, and bunch more.

In the beginning we couldn’t keep our hands off of each other. At least there was sex in the picture. Now another gripe that I had when we were having sex was the fact that I always initiated and I did most of the work. She hardly rode me and she didn’t give me head almost never because of the way I’m uhhhhh built. I’ll just leave it at that, but again at least there was sex in the picture. As of late we haven’t done anything for like I said almost TWO YEARS!!!

Now outside of sex, we are best friends and do everything together. We have a 15 year old daughter who is great and we’ve built an entire life together. 20 years is a long time. We all have needs though.

I’ve tried my hand at the whole AP/OA Reddit fling thing but they never turn out the way I want. It’s either I’m ghosted, we’re not compatible, she’s boring or I’m putting my all into it but she’s just nonchalantly going along with everything and I can’t even read her or understand where she is with the whole thing. It’s annoying but that’s neither here nor there.

I just wanted to post here because it was so awesome to see that there are over 400,000 people that can relate to what I’m going through in some way or fashion. I just wanted to vent a little and I’m sure this will not be my only post here. Thank you so much for anyone who reads this and gives feedback. I hope you all have a wonderful day and I hope that things get better for you all 🙏🏾🫡