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The sex life ended after our first kid. He is 4 now. She is a great mother to him and we parent him together. She pulls a bit more of the weight with him because she is a teacher and has an Early Childhood Development degree as well, so she typically knows best.

I do workout myself, we don't train the same way so we don't work out together. I typically work out of my Lunches

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I never realized that I'd end up with swapped gender roles in my house.

I cook, clean, take care of all the yard work and work 40 hours a week. My wife works 40 hours a week, goes to the gym 4 times a week, goes and visits friends, and leaves me with the rest.

At first I thought if I kept up with the house and made a nice meal, was romantic I could start to revive our love life, but it's like she has no interest in it. It's like her total need to better herself by working out listening to podcasts, and reading is her only focus in life, and our marriage and sex life comes second.

When we do have sex, it almost always initiated by me, and she acts like it's just another thing she "has" to do for me. I can't seem to find anything to revive it. I've tried bringing other things, exciting changes, new positions, mood setting, but nothing seems to do the trick...