In our bedroom nothing happens unless I (HLM) take initiative. When I take initiative I always have to spoil her (low to medium LF) for a long time before she gets in the mood. Then she has her orgasm, thanks me, rolls over and falls asleep.

So again, nothing happens (for me), unless (you guessed it) I take initiative. She wants me to be dominant, to such extent it could be considered harassment or even rape(play). Then I “get what I want," which is… the most vanilla sex you can imagine; me doing it with a starfish.

If I don’t take initiative nothing happens. For a week, month, … one time I tested it, and the drought lasted for 3 months until she suddenly realized “I think we haven’t done anything in over a week!”

I fantasize about a woman that shows more desire, takes initiative sometimes, maybe even goes down on me for no special reason… About that “special reason”, my birthday passed a while ago, and of course, nothing happened.

Besides the sex, our relationship is fantastic in every way. We can talk about anything, including this issue. She’s even given me some cryptic permission to seek it elsewhere, something that I am -sad to say- looking into since recently…

Thanks for reading.