So..I was in one. For a long time. I have 4 kids, and really did do everything I could to save my marriage. I am communicative, open and happy to talk though the challenges that arise week to week in a 15 year marriage. My Ex, wouldn't. Never understood my side, never tried to, bailed on counselling multiple times, refused to get hormones checked, refused to look at medication for a really bad anger issue. She chose to medicate with alcohol. Further and further down the rabbit hole we went. I felt worthless, undesirable you name it. I had been living in our basement suite for 9 months, finally, something just snapped in me. She was yelling at me over something completely insane, like a Missing stock or perhaps a bath mat that wasn't put up and I looked at my son...asked myself....do I want him to think this is OK..? Just like that, I was done. Done tying...done crying..done looking at her as anything other than a partner to raise kids with...that was it. I was scared...who would want me. I am accomplished professionally, in good shape, yet...anywhere I looked people were telling me I was fucked. I have 4 kids and live in the basement suite of my marital home..i was 100% honest with anyone I talked to. Surprise...the dating pool for women is terrible...I stood out like a sore thumb and had lots of suiters early on..I'm not broadcasting anything other than...I'm looking to get out there...what do I find...? A 40 year old rocket that I adore, a high achiever professionally, loves kids but couldn't have her own and chemistry both emotionally and physically that is hard to believe. It's everything I dreamed of stuck in a miserable marriage. Trust yourself. You are worth it and you deserve go be happy. I'm not in a rush...maybe this works out, maybe it doesn't, but man..it feels good.