Hi I’m 43/m/uk, married for 12 years, wife is 41. There’s zero physical affection towards me, nothing. Currently on holiday in Madrid, seeing all these beautiful couples touching each other, being warm to each other just makes me realise what I’m missing. I love and care for her but It’s just so upsetting all the time. I keep thinking it’s me and everything is my fault but I just don’t know what else to do.

Currently sat in a hotel room looking out at everyone having fun whilst listening to her sleep, fun times. It’s so hard isn’t it when you love someone for a long time but you can feel you’re falling out of love. I don’t ask for much, it’s just so sad. Feels like a break up is for the best but all the things to untangle is going to be so daunting.