Sorry if this isn’t the right community for this, I just looked up “venting” and picked a subreddit that looked like it was appropriate to talk about sexual topics in. I wouldn’t really say I’m in a true DB like most others in this sub, but my wife and I’s sex life is definitely lackluster in my opinion. Specifically, I just really want a blowjob and I don’t know how to get it.

I had a fucking cool job that I absolutely loved that I worked for about four and a half years. I got to travel the country on somebody else’s dime and hang out around race cars all day, I really only worked 2-3 days per week most of the time, I got about two months around the holidays where I didn’t have to do a whole lot and it was basically vacation time, and I really enjoyed 90% of the people I worked with. However, it did require me to be on the road A LOT, like I slept somewhere other than my own bed for about 50% of the days in a calendar year. She played a major factor in me leaving that job - It was a major source of conflict for us, she kept saying I was gone too much and I didn’t make enough and like my job was more important than she was. When I tried to tell her that the job market was shitty right now and maybe I should stay another year, she basically told me I wasn’t sending out enough applications. Long story short, I left that job in November, and have pretty much hated my professional life ever since then.

I haven’t gotten a blowjob since I came off the road and started being home full time. I once tracked how often she would blow me without me having to ask for it (I absolutely hate asking for it), and I averaged one every 3-4 months, so I only got 3 or 4 blowjobs that year. I justified it by saying “well, I’m gone a lot, so there’s not as many opportunities. Once I’m home more, I’ll probably get more head”. Nope. Here we are 7 months later, and it hasn’t happened once. I’ve tried to talk to her about it a few times to no avail. One time I asked for one outright and she just blew me off, one time I asked what I could do to get more head and she said “just practice good hygiene, like don’t expect me to do it after you’ve just come home from work or something.” I’ve never asked you to do it while I had swamp ass and I make sure to wash the entire area with soap every day, idk what else you want me to do.

My phone will barely type anymore, I just had to get it out and I feel better now.