From Friday - Sunday let me give you the extent to which I (49HLM)tried to seduce my wife (54ZeroLF)

1. Friday night - Told her she was late for dinner and to pay me back I wanted her for dessert. She said she could make that happen.. kids are out, house to ourselves, and she binge watches 3 hours of TV and is in bed watching more TV. Sad. pushed away/rejected2. On sofa on Saturday, and her best friend called and I decided to put hand down my wife's pants while she spoke to her. (It was kinda hot, but also a little racy and new.) She kinda got embarrassed but didn't completely push me away and suggested we might have a chance to do it again tonight. Never happened.
2. sent funny text about showering together. Rejected

4.Was able to caress boobs and when asked to go down on her without any expectation of reciprocity, was denied. Not sure how she said "no" (verbal or nonverbal) but just another rejection. (Who the fuck rejects head?)

We start sex therapy on Wednesday. I'm actually excited to have some accountability here and figure out what is going on. There is a physical component (menopause), but that takes months to correct. Maybe the therapy will help the mental component or help us realize we are no longer compatible. But I'm dying inside. Zero initiation from her in at least 4 years.