I was always a HLM (46), my wife LLF (43).

I met my wife when I was 26, after 3 years we married. The first 6-7 years of our relationship (until 3-4 years after the wedding) it was good. We had plenty of sex - but she never had any orgasms. (only once in her life with an ex). I worked on my career, my wife on hers.

After our first child was born, it became worse. I was very supportive, I was very patient, but she wasn't interested in me anymore. She started to rely completely on my income. She took care of the child and home, later second child. She could always pursue her freelancer career but did it in only minimal way.

In the last 8-10 years of marriage we had an almost DB. It was the same. She promised me sex every few days and then had 100 reasons not to do it. After 1-2, sometimes 3 weeks we had an argument about it and then she allowed me to do it. Yes, allowed. She was lying there like a a dead body looking at her watch so she can go and watch TV.

During these years, once she changed completely. She became super horny, we had sex every day. I became suspicious and discovered that she was sexting with a guy from another country - she had plans to meet him. After the discovery she stopped and our sex life stopped too.. again.

I was suggesting a therapy, I tried my best, we went on several trips, nothing. I suggested her a sex therapist, masturbation (she didn't do this too). I was very frustrated. I started to visit escorts occasionally. I became more and more depressed. I couldn't live like that, because I was still in love with her.

In the last years she became more and more verbally aggressive. I became more depressive. Exactly two years ago I had a meltdown and my love just stopped. Forever.

After some time my lawyer contacted her. She was absolutely in shock and panic, suddenly she wanted therapy, she wanted sex 24/7, she wanted to repair everything, she even started masturbating.... Her beautiful life was destroyed. But in the last years I wasn't part of her beautiful life.

The whole process and divorce took more then a year. I left her everything, car, house, I pay for the kids, I just wanted to have my peace and no war.

I was always a very sexual person, I had many unfulfilled fantasies. My wife was always telling me that I'm a pervert (believe me, I'm not).

For almost two years I am with a beautiful, 16 years younger woman. She has her business, she is 100% independent, she makes very good money, she doesn't want to have kids, she wants to enjoy her life, she wants to enjoy sex but the most important thing is that she adores me and I adore her. We love each other very much. We are 100% compatible. I goes so far that we became swingers, we occasionally have sex with other people but it's only for fun and absolutely disconnected from our love to each other. The funny discovery it that because of swinging we are constantly in a honeymoon phase. It's hard to express but we are 100% horny and we love to spend time together. Sometimes we don't leave the bed for hours.

I could never imagine, that my life will change so drastically and that I will be able to live my fantasies with 46. Crazy.

Please, don't stay in an unhappy DB for years. Don't do it for kids. Don't do it because of your love to the partner unless it's a serious health issue. You have one life and there is only a limited time on this earth. If you try and there is no change, leave. You have the right to be happy. I have a much better relation to my kids and they live now without the stress of arguing parents.

I wish you all the best.