So I have been lurking & reading some, hesitant to make a post but I'm beyond frustrated. Before marriage, my then boyfriend and I would have sex quite frequently. He worked a lot then as he does now but he always made time for sex. There was passion and enthusiasm. Over time, the sex has dwindled and so has the enthusiasm. He's up and ready to go do a job if called out after working all w eek but can't find the energy to have sex with me. It's also a turn off that he will go days without bathing and brushing his teeth. I've tried talking to him about it and he will bathe for a day or two and then just fall asleep because he's so tired or so he claims.

He doesn't take much interest in what I have to say when he gets home (he will zone off) and seems LESS interested in me physically, after dropping 30 lbs. I look better than ever and have tried to initiate only for him to be too tired. At this point I just want to go and get piped down by someone else. I have talked to him many times about my needs and inquired about his needs, mentioned that I would like for him to clean up regularly and asked if maybe he was depressed but he says no, hes fine, I am the one who should respect he likes to work hard and that hes just tired. I have dressed up sexy for him only for him to notice briefly but not act on it. Nothing sparks his interest. I get so upset when I see other couples and how affectionate they are. I have to ask for hugs and remain untouched 😔