I've been here for a while, previously on a different account, but haven't posted for a couple of reasons. This post is really just about appreciation for those that have the courage to post and help me and others see that we are not alone in our frustrations.

My (38m) and my wife (38f) have not had sex in 6 years. My last blowjob was in 2009. I have been sleeping on the couch for several years because my snoring bothers her. I used to initiate and constantly get rejected and it crushed my self esteem and made my mind go crazy trying to figure out the why. Eventually I stopped initiating and that's when the sex went away entirely. In a way it made things better because I know longer had the expectation that something might happen and it eliminated the heavy amount of being rejected.

Not too interested in advice as I've tried pretty much everything but am more than willing to discuss in more detail if anyone wants to.

Thank you to all that are active in this sub and good luck in your own dead bedroom.