Been married to my wife for 10 years and maybe have sex once every 2 to 3 months. We have 2 kids, we both work, and both taking care of our parents as they need help. So I get it, sex isn’t always an option and I never want to feel like it’s being forced.

So like almost every guy, I masterbate every few days and made the mistake of telling my wife one night after she said she was too tired for sex. Well she finds me masterbating disgusting and gross. I told her I’d rather have sex but she’s always too tired or busy, etcc…I do try to initiate sex and make time for us to spend time together every week but most times turned away so I jerk off.

I say all that l to say that we haven’t had sex since I told her I masterbate. It’s been 4 months now and I haven’t gotten a blowjob in 2 years Am I wrong to masterbate? Should I have told her sooner, should I tell her every time I jerk off. These are the questions I’m running through so figured someone’s been in this situation