Myself (M27) and my partner (F28) have been together for 6 years.

I'll start off by saying I'm not proud of myself but want my needs to be met. It has basically have come to the point where she knows I will occasionally pay for sex but it's not something we ever talk about and don't think we will.

We have never had sex, I belive she is either asexual or suffers with vaginismus but has never been to a doctor or been diagnosed. It is something we try to discuss but makes her visibly uncomfortable. I have tried my best to be understanding and still find her very attractive and would like to commit to intimacy to just her.

I feel like I'm just slating on my girl right now, but she also doesn't like to give blowjobs or to be fingered/penetrated. I find myself struggling to find any enjoyment whenever there is any other sort of sexual intimacy. I don't feel attractive to her what soever and have told her this many time. It's always met with the response that she is attracted to me but I've stopped believing this now.

I have tried to he as supportive as I can and have offered to help her in anyway I can but she doesn't seem to want the help or is scared. I even reached out to a therapist who after a couple of meetings suggested I tell my partner and suggest this is something we tried together. This is shut down instantly.

I've always struggled to express how I feel emotionally and only ever show anger as any emotion. I am working on this and have gotten better at opening up to my girlfriend and others around me but would be lying if I said I didn't still struggle.

Is there anything else I can do to save what I feel is a failing relationship... there is no body else I want to be with and love the girl so much but I feel its falling more into a friendship.

In the eyes of other women out there, am I just the wrong guy for my girlfriend to make her want to have sex?

In the eyes of other men, would you still be here? Am I being an asshole? What would you do next?

Please help to advise me moving forwards. Thanks in advance.