I used to think that the reason I (40 HLF) wasn't getting any at home w my (42 LL4U husband) was my looks... but over the last year(s) I've actually gotten attention from high-caliber men who have, at the least, wanted to sleep with me.

But pretty much all around when someone gets to know me I lose that appeal. I am awkward, quirky, and probably more masculine in my conversation topics than the typical woman that men like.

I don't want to totally change my personality to get laid... but I do think I'm just... not a sexy person. I can LOOK sexy... but I'm a turn off. How do I fix this? What sort of feminine things can I/should I do that makes me more attractive to men (primarily my husband).

Guys... what does your wife do that is super sexy to you?