My husband and I are just - bad - at being married. I don't know how else to explain it. We are pretty good co-parents and love our kids equally. Sometimes I get butterflies seeing him with our kids, seeing how much he loves them.

But that's where the butterflies stop. He lives such a separate life, even though he rarely leaves the house. He doesn't want to know how my day was or how I'm feeling. He has no interest in providing me emotional support in life. Or any other kind of support outside of his role as a parent. At best he's kinda just there, at worst he is being a dick to me about something I feel.

I just wonder what it's like to be in a good marriage. Sex is part of it, but we seem to have no parts of it. I'm just so sad that I see no path to this resolving. Does therapy really work? How can I teach him to care about me?