My husband is on experimental meds for low T and his T levels are normal again. He claims he's attracted to me and even wants sex, he's just tired all the time. I have some PTSD from initiating and being rejected over and over (and my husband telling me I once sexually assaulted him, which I take very seriously) so I just don't know how to initiate to make him want sex "now" vs maybe later.

I know if I put on really skanky shorts and a ripped top he will find it sexy. I don't mind doing that, but it would feel really bad if I did that and he turned me down. I also hate that I have to look like a porn start to make him want me at all. I don't love feeling like a sexual object where all he seems to pay attention to is my ass.

I guess I'm just lost. I feel like I need to work harder to make him get over the "too tired for sex" but I don't want to work hard and get rejected or feel like I am some charactature of something I'm not. But I also can't handle this DB. How do I ask for sex and make it sexy while not being hurt when my husband says no?