Throwaway account - HLM 39 and spouse 36LLF - married 12 yrs with kids. We talk about it, I've tried so many things, but my wife doesn't desire sex. She apologizes for this LL and the fact that I go without... I'm a normally a private person, so this is uncomfortable... Sometimes my sexual desires takeover my mind, then I get depressed knowing I'm stuck without an outlet. I get frustrated with my sexual desires. I really don't want to hurt my wife by bring it up every time, so I keep it to myself more often than not. I assume this is usually when men do something stupid... I don't ever want to hurt to my wife or kids, so I do not intend to change my situation. Is there a way to satisfy my desire without ruining my life?