UPDATE: After a very awkward evening out with friends we finally had the talk about our DB. She asked why I've been so distant lately. I asked her when the last time we had sex was and she stood there dumbfounded because I don't think she had thought about it before I asked. She looked embarrassed when I told her it's been six years since we even tried. She tried to rationalize and justify at first but to her credit she hung her head and apologized for letting this go on for so long.

I explained to her that over the last six years I've felt rejected, emasculated, distrustful, humiliated, and abandoned. We had a long discussion about love languages and agreed to focus on on each other's needs. The single biggest shock was when she agreed to seek counseling. I've been begging her for years to go but there was always an excuse. She sought out a therapist on her own and her first appointment is this week.

We haven't had sex yet because of me, though. I'm struggling with trust issues right now and while I'm grateful to our invisible sky daddy for everything up to this point, I have to know she's serious about meeting my needs. I don't want sex without trust and intimacy.

We went on a date this weekend and it's the first time in years I've felt like the center of her attention and it felt so good! Hell, after I thanked her for a wonderful date she kissed, and I mean KISSED me I've not been kissed in 6 years.

Just wanted everyone to know what's going on after my last post. Biggest lesson I've taken away from this so far is that talking with your DB partner is important. Not easy but important. Take care friends.

UPDATE:

Well, the kiss was it. Nothing since. Back to the same old same old. Looks like nothing is going to change.

Starting to look for FWB...