I've been in a db for at least 5 yrs now. My SO(57m) and I(57f) have had the talk several times, with nothing resolved. He blamed me for the db, which I could agree with to an extent He's a cheater.. He admits his dick doesn't work and hasn't since, his words "that last one." He does have a bit of Low T and doesn't want medication or supplements for it. He refuses to get STD/STI tested.

Today, he hugs me, nuzzles my neck and says he is open to trying to have sex and since his thing doesn't work, he will use his nose or his one of his ten fingers. I was floored. I asked him about him having ED and he said it didn't matter, and he waggled his fingers at me.

I just feel like he's setting me up, this is what he did over 5 years ago, when I said No after he drunk SA me. It gave him a 'reason' to cheat. He is going out of town next week for at least 5 days.

What am I supposed to think about this turn? This is totally out of the blue and unexpected. I'm so confused! I've also told him I'm at the end of the road with his drinking.